To all the working mamas and daddies out there, you are my hero. Most of the couples I meet, both work full time. I have been at home with the kids since my first was born, so I have no idea what it is like. I did a bit of daycare, if you want to call it that, over the years when I was lucky enough to watch three of my four nephews and one of my goddaughters. When the boys first went to school, I couldn’t imagine watching kids anymore. I think I needed a break, and some of that selfish time I mentioned in an earlier post, but now I am thinking “bring on the kids”. The Hubby would probably appreciate me watching the newest kiddies in our life since I could use the baby fix. My sister, C, is going back to work in September, and even though location does not really make sense, I am hoping to have my new niece a couple days a week. I know my sister is freaked out about leaving M, and that is something I can’t even fathom. How do you leave? At least in my sister’s case, she loves her job and everyone at work really appreciates her and are willing to help make being a working mama easier with working from home privileges. I think that is a rare case, most working Mama’s have that 9 to 5 schedule and the few vacation days that are eaten up with when the sick days are used up.
My mornings are hectic enough, and the kids are capable of getting their own cereal while I get ready. Getting ready most mornings usually means throwing on the mom uniform of sweat pants and sweater, sans shower. I will get to the shower later, when the kids are gone… or some days not even then. My teeth are brushed now though, which I could not say with confidence when there was a newborn (or two) in the house. It’s a glamorous lifestyle. So how do the mamas and daddies, who have to beautify (or at least shower) themselves, get the kid(s) ready, lunches made if said kids are in school, and out the door, all before I am probably out of bed? You are my hero. I am not a morning person, the Hubby always tells people I am the nicest person, after 10 a.m. When F and L wake up around 7 a.m., they sing and hang out in their room so I get to stay in bed for another half an hour. I love my bed. Their noise wakes up A, and she crawls into bed with me while the Hubby gets ready and we take our sweet time getting up. Sure, I could get up right away and shower, maybe even slap on some mascara, but hey, that’s what sunglasses are for. I will miss the winter only for the large jackets and hats. No one can see the bed head and giant comfy but super hideous hoodie I have on.
One of my best friends, C, is living the dream. She has taken dance, gymnastics, since she was a fetus (pretty much) and seven years ago she opened up her own fitness and dance studio with one of her friends. My three kids took her Acro classes when we lived closer, and it was amazing. Like a mini boot camp for kids, it keeps them fit and A can’t stop doing cartwheels. We had a dance party after dinner tonight and because of going to the studio over March break for dance camp, the kids wanted to hear hip hop like at Body Lines (the studio). They were following the beat, mostly, and doing the cutest (I mean coolest, sorry L) moves. Seven years ago my friend C had no kids and could put in all the hours it takes to establish a business. Now she has two kids, my goddaughters. Her friend and business partner, also has two kids. They have the space to bring the kids to the studio with them, but it is costly, paying for a nanny (who is awesome) and it is tiring. I really do not know how their house is ever clean, when do they have the time for that, or when do they sleep? It is long hours and not a lot of me time, unless three minute baths and 6 hours of sleep are all you need. However, she is doing what she loves, what she is passionate about, and her kids will grow up knowing that. Grow up knowing hard work and passion can take you anywhere.
I could go on forever about working mamas, but let me just mention my sister in laws, and then I HAVE to go and watch The Voice. K, the Hubby’s sister, is a nurse. Her life could be made into a movie. She is completely selfless, smart, and devoted to helping others. She has been all over the world working with MSF (doctors without borders), she is a traveler who thrives on learning about and helping other cultures and she is my hero working or not. Now she lives in the suburbs with her three year old, and works full time. Yes, still a nurse, but not quite the same. She would do anything for her family, her son, and me time is like a distant memory. She is one of the best mamas out there. One day, when her son is much older and ready to travel, I am sure she will be on that plane faster that I can demolish a glass of wine, but for now I get to spend time with her and I will enjoy it. My sister in law, A, who is married to the Hubby’s brother, went back to work so her hubby could finish school. That is love. Does she want to be at work? Not so much. Her youngest son, my nephew S, is not yet 2, and her two older boys go to school with my guys. She worked before S was born, but I know when her hubby goes back to work she would prefer to arrange her hours around so she can spend more time at home with the kids. Plus, with her living right down the street, I hope one day we can be ladies who lunch. I selfishly wish we could hang out more! My brother in law, her hubby, is one smart cookie, so once he is done school he will have to fight all his job offers off with a stick, and he will have to say goodbye to staying at home. I am not sure how he feels about that, but being an awesome dad, I am sure he’d rather be at home too. Maybe I will win the lottery tomorrow (if I played, of course) and we can just buy a mansion and each family can pick a wing and everyone I love can live together and have dance parties after school everyday. That would be living the dream for me!